I’ve always prided myself on being a loving and supportive grandmother. For me, family comes first. So when my daughter-in-law, Jessica, asked me to babysit my grandson, Luke, for the weekend, I was more than happy to help out. I adore that little boy, and spending time with him was always a joy.

It was just supposed to be a normal weekend. I packed up my overnight bag, grabbed a few snacks for Luke and me, and headed over to their house on Friday afternoon. Jessica and my son, Aaron, were going out of town for a much-needed getaway, and they knew Luke would be in good hands with me. It was routine by now. I’d taken care of Luke on several occasions, and it was always a pleasure to watch him.

But what I came home to after the weekend would leave me shaking with disbelief.

After dropping Luke back off with his parents, I was looking forward to a quiet evening. But as soon as I walked into my house, I saw a small, neatly folded envelope sitting on the table. It was addressed to me in Jessica’s neat handwriting. At first, I assumed it was just a thank-you note, something to acknowledge my time spent with Luke. But when I opened it, I couldn’t believe my eyes.

Inside was an itemized list.

It started innocently enough: “$5 for snacks” and “$10 for extra diapers.” Fair enough, I thought. I did feed Luke a couple of extra snacks, and there was a pack of diapers I used. But then, the list went on to include charges for things I could never have imagined. “$7 for using the TV” and “$3 for the extra water bottle from the fridge.”

But the kicker? “$20 for using the guest bathroom during the weekend.”

I stared at the paper in shock. I couldn’t believe what I was reading. Was this some kind of sick joke? Or had she seriously charged me for using her house? I was the one who cooked and cleaned for Luke, not to mention the countless hours I’d spent running after him, making sure he was safe and happy. And yet here I was, being treated like I was freeloading in my own son’s home.

I seethed with anger. How could she think this was acceptable? It was beyond outrageous. I raised my kids with love and care, and I’ve been nothing but supportive of Jessica since she entered our family. How did it come to this?

At first, I was stunned into silence. I didn’t know what to do or say. I’d never felt so disrespected in my life. I wasn’t just being charged for taking care of my grandson, but it felt like I was being reduced to some sort of service worker—an employee who needed to pay for every little thing.

I spent the next few hours pacing around my house, fuming. I even considered calling her right away, but I knew I needed to think carefully. I didn’t want to let anger cloud my judgment. So I took a few deep breaths and tried to figure out how to approach the situation without making things worse.

But then, it hit me: I couldn’t let this slide. Not only was I furious for the obvious disrespect, but I also couldn’t let this go on for the sake of future visits. If I let this behavior stand, who knew what would be next? Would she charge me for sitting on the couch? Using the bathroom? This wasn’t a normal family relationship; it was a business transaction.

I drafted a message to her that night, something I never thought I’d have to say. I tried to stay calm, but I knew I couldn’t let her get away with this.

“Jessica, I received your note, and I’m absolutely stunned. I cannot believe you think it’s appropriate to charge me for things like using the TV and a bottle of water in my own son’s home. I understand that you may want to be thorough with your household expenses, but this crosses a line.

I came to watch Luke because I love him and wanted to spend time with him. I did it out of love and family duty, not because I was being paid. I feel deeply disrespected by this. I’m happy to continue helping you out with Luke, but I will not be treated like an outsider or charged like I’m a paying guest. I expect that in the future, we will keep our relationship centered on family, not money.”

I hit send and set the phone down.

The response I received came within an hour. It was a short message: “Sorry. I didn’t realize you’d feel that way. I’ll be more careful with how I word things in the future.”

That was it. No acknowledgment of how deeply she’d hurt me, no explanation of why she thought it was okay. Just a quick apology, like she was brushing the issue under the rug.

I don’t know what I was expecting from her, but I certainly wasn’t expecting the coldness and distance that followed. We’ve barely spoken since. I still babysit Luke from time to time, but the relationship feels strained.

And honestly? I’m still grappling with whether I’m overreacting or if I had every right to feel hurt. I’ve raised my children with love, never expecting payment, and I’ve always wanted to be a good mother-in-law. But after that note, I can’t help but feel like I’m being taken advantage of.

So, here I am, asking for advice. Am I wrong to feel this way? Is it just part of being a parent and grandparent, or was Jessica completely out of line? What would you have done in my place? Because I’m honestly at a loss.”