Calling someone “fat” is often considered a hurtful insult, but why is that? This question was raised recently after a mother of two, Allison Kimmey, shared a powerful story about an experience she had while swimming with her children. When her daughter called her “fat,” Allison responded in a way that’s now inspiring thousands across the internet.
Allison, 30, has had a long journey with body image. At 14, she began dieting and managed to maintain a size two to four through graduate school, but it was a struggle, and she wasn’t happy. By the age of 27, Allison reached a size eight and came to an important realization—she would be much happier if she accepted her body instead of fighting to stay thin.
To document her journey and motivate others, Allison started an Instagram account, @allisonkimmey, where she shares body-positive messages. Her posts radiate joy and promote self-love, though her message doesn’t always resonate with everyone.
Recently, during a pool outing with her son and daughter, Allison encountered a moment that allowed her to pass on this message to her kids in a memorable way. When it was time to leave the pool, her daughter, upset and frustrated, called her “fat.” Rather than responding with anger, Allison saw it as a teaching moment.
She recounted the conversation on Instagram:
Allison: “What did you say about me?”
Daughter: “I said you were fat, mama. I’m sorry.”
Allison: “Let’s talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and bones and keeps our bodies going by providing energy. Do you have fat?”
Daughter: “Yes! I have some here on my tummy.”
Allison: “That’s right! So do I, and so does your brother.”
Her son chimed in, saying he didn’t have any fat because he was the “skinniest” and only had muscles. Allison took the opportunity to correct him gently, explaining that every single person in the world has fat, just in different amounts. She emphasized that having more or less fat doesn’t make anyone better or worse.
Her children understood, and together, they agreed that calling someone “fat” isn’t accurate because everyone has fat—it’s a natural part of being human.
Allison’s approach didn’t just teach her kids to speak kindly to others; it also spread a message of equality and acceptance, regardless of body shape. Her Instagram post quickly went viral, resonating with people who appreciated her thoughtful and constructive way of handling the situation.
As Allison explained in her post, “If I shame my children for saying it, then I am proving that it is an insulting word and continuing the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical, and undesirable.”
By turning what could have been a painful moment into a lesson in body positivity, Allison Kimmey showed how important it is to shift our mindset about body image and teach the next generation to view themselves and others with kindness and understanding.
